A festival for and about children and their development cannot be complete without an
examination of the best and most effective ways of communicating with them, and this
is what a panel discussion by experts sought to do at the Sharjah Children’s Reading
Festival (SCRF 2023).
Dr Fadia Daas, a UAE-based early years teacher and children’s book author, Emirati
writer Amira Bin Kadra, and American children and young adult author Lily LaMotte got
together at the festival’s Discussion Forum on how to get the message effectively to
children as adults and parents, without resorting to harsh or strict attitudes or
ultimatums. As both writers for children and mothers themselves, the panellists brought
observations from their first-hand experience.
“Effective communication with children starts as early as their time in the womb,” said Dr
Daas. And from the time they are infants, their primary caregivers must take pains to
communicate in the best way possible, using love language as the key.”
Bin Kadra offered that empathy is the key to communicating with children, and that
parents must devise their communication strategies based on each child’s individual
needs. “Children look around and absorb everything they see; they learn from us. So we
are modelling and mentoring our kids when it comes to communication,” said LaMotte.
Of the many tools and ways that can be employed in effective parent-children
communication, Dr Daas says that love language is key. “Some children like to be
hugged, some like to be listened to, or to be encouraged, and yet others may want their
caregiver to spend time with them and just want their presence around. Identify and
nurture the right way to communicate with them,” said Dr Daas. “At the same time, one
should strike a balance, and refrain from rewarding them every time they behave or do
something good. But communicate that you love them unconditionally, as that is the
fundamental core of a child’s wellbeing and sense of self. But communication itself boils
down to each child’s personality.”
“In the early years, children are observers who take and absorb every form of
communication you provide them,” Bin Kadra further opined. “This is something that
really impacts children and can take deep root in their subconscious minds”.
LaMotte said that stories can offer a great form and tool of communication. “Stories are
very important and have been part of civilisation for thousands of years. They are a
fundamental part of how adults and children communicate. Just as friends can model
behaviour for them, so do books. They can learn from the way characters in their
favourite stories tackle and navigate problems and communicate.”
Finally, there are the do’s and don’ts of communication with young ones. “Don’t be
confrontational and create a safe space for kids to communicate with you,” notes
LaMotte. “Otherwise, it can result in cognitive dissonance in children where they believe
in one thing but are told to handle it in another way, and this can lead to lying or making
up tales.”
Reinforcing positive behaviour repeatedly, over time, is what brings out the best in
children, the panellists concluded, saying that it’s not a one-time exercise but a work in
progress throughout their young lives.
The 14th annual Sharjah Children’s Reading Festival (SCRF 2023) is the region’s
largest festival of its kind, dedicated to stimulate creativity in young minds and bring
them closer to books. The event is running until May 14 in Expo Centre Sharjah and
carries the theme ‘Train your Brain’.